John Henry Brian McElarney

My Dad 

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Since my dad passed away its become very obvious how highly he was regarded and by so many people. I knew he was a good man. It was obvious with all the love and support he'd shown me over the years. 

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What I hadn't expected is realising just how different he seems to have been to different people. Always the same decent understated generally good guy with the quick sense of humour, but I've had some real surprises in the many conversations I've had about him in recent weeks. Hearing about the speech he gave at a close friends wedding, the last thing I would have expected and something he avoided when I got married having made his feelings on the matter very clear is a good example.

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Our relationship was rejuvenated late 2015 after surgery following my cancer diagnosis.  As I recovered he visited, spent time with me and took me out and about as I got stronger.  It was my turn in 2020 supporting him along the year long road of cancer diagnosis, shielding  thanks to covid19, chemo and the many twists and turns along the way.  As difficult as that time was, it gave us prescious time together that we probably wouldn't have shared otherwise.

 

He drove me absolutely around the bend (I can say that as I know I did the exact same thing to him) But I would do anything to have him back here with me again now.  Its a comfort that we shared some very special moments particularly at the end. They are fond memories of my dad, a good dad that will remain with me always.

John Henry Brian McElarney

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- Born January 1941

- Grandad, Dad, Husband, Partner, 

  Litho Printer, Mason and good man

- Sadly left us March, 2021

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It will never be the same now you're gone, but you will always be a part of us. This is for you and your memory will go on in everything we see, everything hear and everything feel.

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Life and death are the same thread. The same line just viewed from different sides.